I accept Terry's analogy of his marriage to a soul mate equated to his relationship to the JWs. It is fitting like most early marriages in our society are based on limited values, primarily material ones. Beauty, fun-to-be-with, popular, wealthy..etc. The Witlesses offer up the same thing, a material snack devoid of quality nutrition... When the snack runs out, the blood sugar plummets, the depression sets in and dissillusionment results. Same with religion. You were promised a material reward, reinforced by peer pressure, fear and guilt and had all your emotional buttons pushed. When you finally overloaded, crashed and burned, you are convinced no other religion could ever fill the void or "all religion is a crutch" which you incessantly shout at every chance.
Why not take a deep breath, give life some time to deal with the issues and feelings of being betrayed, consider that both science and religion are evolving and are "moving targets". Not until the subject has been desensitized, can you look with any level of objectivity. Two emotions will derail you from evaluating anything, love and hate. If your cup is filled with hate for what "religion" (only one likely) had done to you, you will not be able to "see with your own eyes, or hear with your own ears", so to speak. If you are so captured with vain imaginings that your love of your self and your ideas will not allow a new paradigm or a new way of seeing an issue, again you cannot judge it with objectivity. I urge any exjw to wait three, five or more years before setting about "finding a replacement" religion. Then decide upon a set of criteria that you will use to judge it/them. You will have had some time to decide if the criteria is based on limited values or ones that are more enduring. For instance, do you want to belong to an "exclusive club" thinking you are part of a limited select group that has "thee truth" or do you want to be part of humanity and be "inclusive" welcoming all within the "tent of salvation". There are degrees to this, but you will have to come to terms with what level of discomfort you are willing to endure. Are YOU willing to change for the better or do you want a set of beliefs that does not challange you or ask you to do or become anything other than what you already are?