Hi exjdub,
Here are my thoughts on the subject:
I have struggled with some of the same thoughts as you and others. I think you would find the work of Joseph Campbell interesting. He studied religious mythology all over the world. He came to the conclusion that we could find more satisfaction in religious writings by acknowledging that they are result of mythology and not read them concretely. Like the story of Adam and Eve, or Jonah. If we examine the symbology we might find it more meaningful and less troublesome.
I have decided to "keep" in my heart the parts of the Bible that inspire me and make me a better person. Like 1 Corinthians 13. And the discription of the fruitage of God's spirit described in Galatians 5:22,23. In fact, I was meditating on that one day had a personal epiphany about it. I was thinking that those scriptures show that God's spirit does not come from belonging to a particular organization. To the extent that we show love, joy, peace, patience, etc we demonstrate that we possess God's spirit. I feel I have become more understanding and compassionate since leaving the witnesses, and less judgmental. It has proven to me that the society has over stepped its bounds to insinuate that people who leave have lost God's spirit and are controlled by the Devil. I think that you can begin to see spiritual beauty all around if you look for it.
About the Bible. I think much of the Bible is a guidebook for establishing cults and cultlike behavior. Religions that still insist on a literal interpretation, comformity, strict adherance to a certain set of tenets, and discourage individual thought, are cults. Many mainstream churches also fall into this catagory. They can be come like a drug and require constant indoctrination sessions (meetings, services...) to keep one on the straight and narrow. One has to constantly quell his own disquieting thoughts and become numb. Many work out their entire lives on this earth waiting to be called to heaven or paradise or the rapture or surviving armeggedon....
Most ancient religious writings inspire guilt and the feeling of smallness, inadequacy. That could be because the people wrote them felt at a loss because of misunderstanding natural occurances. But worse than that is the ones wrote with an agenda... to disempower the regular folk......
Examining the Bible from a different viewpoint(s) can be very beneficial. It can be liberating to ponder the things you brought up.
Karly