"Beware of those whom come to you in sheeps clothing but are ravenous wolves ", or something like that.
And if you think that they won't DA you you are sorely mistaken. These elders are doing what they think is right, but get some hard-cores on you and you're as good as gone.
Remember, too, that I am just faded, like so many others. So am I apostate? Is using common sense apostate? Jehovahs Witnesses sure think so.
They are about as much sheep as my ass is black, LOL!
Look for signs of cults, and get yourself some reading material on cults. Witnesses are spelled out in there. People don't want answers; they want acceptance and half-truths.
Unfortunately, due to family circumstances, etc it's hard to make a clean break from this obviously false and destructive "high-control-group" of "christians". Sounds like they are using double speak on you, and leaning on they're own understanding. Just wait until a hard-core gets on you and if you have the same "frank" conversation. They;'ll DA you faster than you can say bullshit.