Sorry to hear about you Daughter in law being dragged into the JW clutches. It will be hard to get her out at this moment in time I feel, whilst her faith is still strong and still has that zeal for the "truth", and she will have many people in the congregation trying to support her, being new. I speak from personal experience here of almost being dragged in myself.
I spent 3 years studing with them, going of field service and street work, handing out watchtowers and awakes left right and centre. I was supported be the whole congregation and enfolded in their arms as they tried to suck me in to the centre of their flock.
But keep chipping away whilst that strength is not fully built up yet and she is not as resitant to you subtle arguments. Keep sowing the seeds of doubt in her. It's good that your son isn't a JW as that will help, but he has to be careful that he doesn't get dragged along to support his wife's beliefs, because they are taught to prey on family members.
I JUST got off the phone with our son and had an amazing conversation with him! He called to see if we wanted to come hear a Curcuit Overseer's talk at their KH. To make a loooong story short, he has agreed to read some stories from ex-JWs that I've found on the net. I asked him, "Doesn't it make sense to hear an ex-JW's side of the story? After all, THEY HAVE BEEN THERE....THEY HAVE LIVED IT and know what they're talking about." He agreed. HALELUJAH! So, we'll see what happens.....
Soon as they realize what he is saying the ushers will probably drag him off the platform,or if they let him continue then the P.O. will be striaght back on with many tales of ones who have fallen by the wayside, probably made up, or how they have joyfully come back into the loving arms of their brothers and sisters
They can't have him expounding the virtues of being an ex JW and having a good time and being in a successful life. According to JW's all disfellowshipped ones, fall either into drug's, prostitution, money problems etc...
Play dumb, be subtle. Are you a bible reader already.............if not, start............this will help in casual conversations, because if you are not then anytime you bring up the bible, they will be ready to defend.
Simplesally
This is good advice even though you may not believe in the bible, if you know it, you can use it against them and get them thinking. They'll come up with the usual excuse of "I'm not to clear on the subject, I'll do some research and get back to you." or "I'm not familiar with that scripture" They rarely do, it's the JW way of getting out of a tricky situation. They don't like to think that there are people who know the bible better than they do.
dont' use things that go against their teachings. use their own ideas and experiences and such
Dustyb
This is how JW try to "convert" people to their beliefs as well so they know all about it. when on bible studies and field service they are told to find out something what beliefs they have in common and build them up first before going against well held beliefs. If you try to knock away their support in one go it will just make them put two in it's place. You have to replace that support first before you knock the original one away
Houdini