so sorry for what u are going through. and about to go through. So many on thiis board have gone through the same thing. Their JW spouses have shunned them and turned their children against them and on and on. Worldly girl and dmouse come to mind. Go do a search on dmouse and read what he is going through. That ought to give u Pause.
It will have an affect on your children -if and when u have them. If u chose to stay with your wife and have children,, please for your unborn children's sake do them a lifesaving favor and do not allow your wife to raise them as jws. U can do that being the husband and if she is a good jws wife, she'll go with it. Think of the happiness you'll bring your future kids, they will get to be somewhat normal. U could spare them from the childhood most of us had. Plus u will be a step ahead of the jws in their efforts to demonize u to your own children. And they will do that. Reread GaryB post. They will turn your own children against u. Gary is over at Freeminds and has written several articles. Read them. They will take your children away from u and your own children will shun u.
This situation can happen especially if u do not want to be a jws based on apostasy. Your wife may even leave u over this. U are a grave spiritual danger to her. (that is what they will tell her).
Your wife is already thinking about this stuff, b/c she is worrying about having children. The handwriting is on the wall, as they say.