That is wonderful that you care so much. With all the deaths I have had this past fall, I have found no one really has been there for me in the way I needed them to be. Thunder of course has but otherwise I jsut have felt that no one cares. What I wanted was someone that talked to me, hugged me and was thoughtful. I have felt very alone and felt I couldn't even be there for my daughter during her time of grief
I want to say that I really appreciate all the help and advice on this thread.
Sentinel, I will order that book and maybe hang on to it until I feel its the right time to give it to her. She can read it when she is ready (or not at all....)
The person who died is someone I've known for my entire life - I'm finding it a bit difficult at the moment because my life is "carrying on" and I'm trying to be there for her (it is someone very closely related to her).
((Sheila)) sorry to hear you've felt so alone. I'm sure your daughter understands, or will understand in future.
You have received excellent advice from everyone. May I echo Little Toe and remember her when time has gone by and all the fuss and attention has faded away. Everyone goes back to their own life, but for your friend, life has been irrevocably changed.
I had a really tough time when my father died 10 years ago. He had raised me and I have no siblings, and I felt very alone. I finally got to a place where life was OK again, it was just a different "OK".
I also need go say that I meant more the RL people have not been there. XenaWarrior, Star, Shutterbug etc have been all that kept me going these past few months
I'm glad you've not been *too* alone, sometimes its the people who are not in our family who can be there for us because they're not as close to the pain.
The funeral is next Tuesday. I think this is hitting me a bit more now because at first I was 100% focused on how everyone else was taking it, and wasn't recognising my own feelings that much.
I'm lucky to have a lot of people around me who care.