Here's something I am wondering. I was alone in the troof (married but partner not in troof) female without children. The ignorance and arrogance of so called sisters was outstounding. I was made to feel a nothing, a failure because I could not bring my partner to the troof plus we had no children to add to the numbers.
In another post I made the comment that I never felt as alone as when I was with the congregation. The elders really did not know what to do with me as I kind of had a mind of my own and did not necessarily follow their lead. Well lets face it if I did that meant I would have to not talk to anyone but fellow elders, shun half the congregation and be totally hypocritical!
Other single sisters felt the same way to which I thought was interesting and I was relived to find out I was not alone in the opinion I had. I tried reading accounts of single sisters in the truth and read accounts in the Awake about it...they were few and far between too.
So what I am wondering is does anyone have an opinion about single sisters in the truth and how they were/are treated? Was it my imagination that I was generally shoved aside, not invited to the many social gatherings ever, not invited out in field service and such. I often used to get comments like "Oh I never thought of inviting you" or "I didnt think about you". That was unless someone wanted something. Its amazing but once I got a car I started to get invites to places, mainly so I could pick up people and drop them off again.
In one newly formed congregation I was in, my partner and I had literally half the congregation around for a meal and many friendships were formed because of this. Yet we got back not one invitation and my husband (not a witness) said no more. I got upset because I was doing it to help the congregation to form not to get invitations but I did take his meaning on board and was tying to "obey" him like a good witness wife should do.
So if you were a single sister (no partner in troof or just single) in the troof did you ever feel like this or were you ever made to feel like this? Did you know of single sisters who had similar feelings and so on? Or was this something totally unique to me? Was I being unrealistic to expect that I was a fully baptised member of the congregation and a part of Jehovah's family and should have been treated as such?
Now I understand why this happened as the cong is just imperfect humans hiding behind god's word and using it to justify weaknesses and so on. Many were incapable of loving someone who was an individual, different from the main stream and so on. Not meaning to offend anyone here either.