Solicitors Visit Update

by pale.emperor 28 Replies latest jw experiences

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    in the UK..quite frankly the law is is just about as unhelpful as it gets with regards to fathers in a split up. generally speaking--the kids stay with the mum. which means the kids stay with mum--in the house. Till the kids finish full time education. so--dad moves out., thereby losing his home...but still ends up paying for it. and it doesnt matter a toss whose " fault" it all was.

    the watchtower --of course--are well aware of this--and thats why so many men are PIMO--they know they have everything to lose. happened to me--happened to my son.

    add to the mix..if the mum is unable / unwilling to work...and gets social security ( AKA income support )..then dad is introduced to a whole new depth of pain....the child support agency.

    the CSA basically is a tax on the dads earnings--to offset the social security paid to the mum. but it varies according to his earnings--even though the money paid to the mum stays the same. i know men who are hit for far more than their ex--and the kids get.

    if theres a morale to the whole mess--its guys--dont get married--if you must--dont have kids CERTAINLY NOT if you are involved with a dub--that just makes a bad mess ten times worse.

  • neat blue dog
    neat blue dog

    I'm glad to hear you're getting the support you need. I'm all for freedom of thought, religion and expression, but there has to be a cut off point, even more so when children are involved. Too often governments are intimidated by religions like JWs crying 'persecution!'

  • carla

    Good for you! Glad it went as well as it did.

  • dubstepped

    Fantastic! You win, and you got to educate others about the realities of the cult in the process. I don't get why she thinks she can make such decisions regarding YOUR family anyways. That's not cool. You've been too nice to these people for the results you've gotten.

  • TD

    Good for you and your daughter! Well done!

    Based on what your solicitor(s) said, it appears that "Dave" was on the wrong side of the law in his assertion that neither he nor your Mum needed to answer to you.

  • mentalclarity

    Glad it worked out for you. Hope it gets easier as time goes by

  • Incognito

    Congratulations on obtaining the advice you need in your legal standing, and for getting your wife to agree that visitation with your mother and sister must now be arranged through you.

    As you have control and authority, suggest as conditions for your mother, her husband and your sister to continue visitation, the time:

    1. Shall not involve religious discussion, instruction, or influence
    2. Shall not involve attendance at kingdom hall or other JW functions
    3. Shall not involve discussion regarding your or your exes lack of attendance at meetings, acceptability to God or the organization, or your personal relationships with others
    4. Shall not include discussion or opinions regarding holidays, birthdays and other celebrations
    5. Shall not include discussion or opinions regarding activities you or your ex have arranged for you daughter to attend or participate in
    6. You are to be consulted before they remove your daughter from their premises
    7. You are to be immediately notified upon any injury or incident
  • stuckinarut2

    I agree with ingocnito's comment.

    Well done PE!

    We are with you through all of this.

    Maintain your Dignity, Poise and Grace, and it will show through to your daughter that you are the mild and reasonable one.

    After all, this is all about HER, and HER welfare.

    Much love buddy!

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    i wonder what wll happen when your ex gets d/f ?

  • pale.emperor

    i wonder what wll happen when your ex gets d/f ?

    Im wondering this too.

    Im hoping it'll give my family the kick in the balls they need that will make them realize this religion is messed up when it comes to shunning those you want around.

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