neverknew. I agree. The mind control is just that, mind control. Usually, they DON"T know much of what they are saying is actually controlled, regurgitated, cult-speak, thought. They are conditioned, and that is not their "fault" It is the fault of a cult.I also was gobsmacked. Like a brick hitting me in the head. I was in shock. This was not the an I thought I married. What happened? Yet I try, and I try HARD to figure out how to make this work out, but this may be a bigger problem than I can live with. It likely is. Our daughter is then the collateral damage through no fault of her own. It will destroy her childhood if our marriage breaks up, or if the household continues to be under so much stress.
This is why the whole thing is so dangerous. We believe them because THEY believe the superficial "love bombing" speak, half truths, or full-out lies, too. Or they don't understand what is being said so they just put it off to not being spiritually strong enough yet. We as non jws are only beginning to find reality of this cult. Media barely covers it. So many people just don't know the depth of the control in order to make a lifetime decision of marriage. Thankfully, youtube, this site, jwfacts, and others are out there for those who are now just trying to research. As long as they do not go by the organizational rule not to look at any website material outside the official website then they have a chance at finding out reality.
It is insidious and that is why steve2's comment on this topic, and the people laughing at the marriage of JWs marrying non JWs is so incredibly off putting to me.
It is tragic, destroys lives, destroys families, hurtful, and even mean to suggest it is a good thing ( The only exception, and I believe they are rare, is unless the JW is a confirmed physically, and mentally out and continue to prove to remain as such , since no one can ever probably ever be fully mentally out.