What Type of Elder Body Did You Have?
I was an elder in two different congregations and both were conservative and strict, especially congregation number one. It was headed by a former Branch Servant as they were called back then. All elders were by the book. Most of them were decent men but like many elders , uneducated and proud of it!
The. Second congregation was filled with many different personalities of old timers as well as Bethel elders who towed the line. Ultimately the elders went by the book and many loved to call the branch for help on even trivial matters.
How were your elders? Liberal or conservative?
The last cong we were in was made up of a mixed bunch, but very strict and "by the book". Also they were dominated and controlled by a couple of "bully-boy" narcissistic elders who made sure things were done their way.
I did not want to be an elder when that was the culture amongst them. (They did me a favour really!)
A bunch who could have cared less about anyone.
ToesUp: A bunch who could have cared less about anyone.
The joy of colloquial English?
konceptual99: Why is it US English uses the phrase "could care less"? It's "couldn't care less". Which of the following statements makes logical sense? "The GB could care less about the victims" or "The GB could not care less about the victims". **steps off soap box**https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6245727799869440/_post/5666058075635712
For the last 20 years before I left JWdom, I attended two congregations that met at the same hall. One had the rural side of the large territory and was conservative, cold, reserved and strict. Social gatherings were heavily monitored, and everybody knew everyone else's business. Most were related and gossipped a lot. The other came from the more populous beach area-- most elders were successful smalll business men or in management for the local nuclear power plant and the submarine base (save the one villiage idiot-- no offence to our own VI!) They were much more relaxed, even joking on stage. It was a much more loving congregation and fun group. The elders were approachable.
I was baptized in the conservative one and later moved back there. After 9 years we moved into the socially chill congregation's territory, but not knowing any better, I stayed in the same rural congregation, even though I wasn't "assigned" there, mainly because I had known them most of my life.
Because of a family situation, the elders in the conservative congregation asked me to change to my assigned congregation, since my son lived at home still, and they didn't want to involve two BOEs in "The Situation."
When everything eventually settled down, and my son was disfellowshipped, they tried to get me to return to 'help support weekday field service.' I said, 'No way in hell.' with a big smile and in perfect JW speak.
Ok....they didn't give a sh*t, is that better?
All the bodies I served on we're dominated by too many men from the same family. They never broke rank with each other, so any decision or vote went their way. One bethelite who I thought a lot of showed he had no backbone on a serious case we had. Thought less of him after that. Inconsistent decision making, despite all that I think they were all mostly sincere.
It's true usually there are a couple of bullies or overzealous elders who make the case and persuade the more liberal ones to see the proper way ""
Nothing was worse when you talk to a fellow elder about showing mercy to somebody only for that Elder to crumble in front of the body and take a hard line.
ToesUp: Ok....they didn't give a sh*t, is that better?
Haha. No. I think in terms of descriptive linguistics, the colloquial use of 'could care less' is empathetically better - that's the joy of the English language 'as-used' rather than requiring it to always confirm to the rigidity of grammatical 'rules'.