Just wondering how many are assisted to wake up after experiencing harsh treatment from "the loving shepherds of the congregation"?
Perhaps some were starting to wake up, and such behaviour or treatment gave them the push to leave?
As Jesus supposedly said "come to me all who are toiling and loaded down, and I will refresh you. My load is light and kindly"
For example, what about a young one who is harshly counselled or criticised for their choice of dress or grooming? If dealt with in a kindly way, they may have been encouraged. But if harshly condemned, did this assist them to realise that the society is not following a "Christlike loving manner"?