There's a girl in my math class at Community College who...OMG she is such a hottie. A babe-alicious babe.
I am very inexperienced in these matters, I guess you could say I'm relationship challenged.
How do I approach her? What do I say to her? She seems to struggle a bit with the material we're covering in class, and it comes pretty easy to me. Maybe I could ask her if she wants to study sometime - ?
She has smiled at me a few times, but I have an unfortunate history of reading too much into what was only friendliness.
Start out casual, ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee or something after class, then ask her if she'd like to study. If you'll just relax and be yourself...turn that Tom Cruise smile on her...you'll be fine.
Even though I've been in a number of relationships, I still consider myself relationship challenged. I have learned that clever "lines" don't work - not for me anyway. And if she's as hot as you say, she's probably heard all the lines anyway, and might prefer an open and honest approach. I would just tell her I find her attractive, and would she like to go out? The study approach is not bad, but I wouldn't waste too much time just studying before I expressed my interest. I've blown too many potential relationships by letting my shyness get the best of me, and causing me to act too slowly.
It started way back in third grade I used to sit beside Emmylou Hayes A pink dress, a matching bow, and her ponytail She kissed me on the school bus but told me not to tell Next day I chased her around the playground 'Cross the monkey bars to the merry-go-round And Emmylou got caught passing me a note Before the teacher took it I read what she wrote
Do you love me do you want to be my friend And if you do Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand If you want to I think this is how love goes Check yes or no
Now we're grown up and she's my wife Still like two kids with stars in our eyes Ain't much changed I still chase Emmylou Up and down the hall around the bed in our room Last night I took her out in a white limousine Twenty years together she still gets to me Can't believe it's been that long ago When we got started with just a little note
Do you love me do you want to be my friend And if you do Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand If you want to I think this is how love goes Check yes or no
Do you love me do you want to be my friend And if you do Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand If you want to I think this is how love goes Check yes or no Check yes or no Check yes or no
Ok i'll be serious. Why not just start a conversation with her and if you seem to get along well, just come out and ask her if she would like to go out for dinner sometime.
try the studious coffee approach...if that doesn't work tell her you are stalking here and won't quit till she goes out w/ you...*LOL* A sure winner..*LOL* J/K man...approch and ask if maybe you could buy her lunch sometime. Nice and easy like..
you haven't seen a great smile until you've seen this girl -
walter,
Yeah, I would use the study time to see if there is potential for a real date.
horses,
I've never heard that song. Dinner might be a bit too much considering how little I know her. I don't get much opportunity to talk to her in class.
I'm 33 and I can only think of one time that I've asked a girl to go out. Usually on the rare occasion that I do have a date, it has been them asking me out.
The last time I dated someone it was a disaster, and I still work with the b*tch, and the whole mess was a big crap on my confidence.
approch and ask if maybe you could buy her lunch sometime
But what if she says no??!! LOL
You know, this is something I've gotta do. I am so damn risk-averse that unless I change, 10 years from now I'm gonna be a 40-something single-never-married, I do not cherish that prospect.
Dan, just ask her if she would like to get a soda or a snack at a local eatery after school. Comment on something she has said in class or a common interest at school. I went out with one guy from my study group.
If she says, no, don't give up. Wait awhile and try again.
When my husband asked me out the first time, I said no....then later I could have kicked myself. I ended up asking him out the second time.
The question is what is your goal, to sleep with the hottie, or get to know the whole person?
