Very true Waiting,,,,,,,,,,,My mom and I loved our barn. We had some bad news one day about the "CandyMan" the older brother in the hall, when I was real little, who would give us a piece of candy after the meeting if we were good.
My mom told me when I got home from school that he had shot himself, after a hunting accident left him unable to walk, he was such an active older man and got so depressed. I remember the elders saying he had demons. He probably went to them telling them things, maybe medication problems or depression and they probably told him Satan was trying to get at him. I resented them for what I will never know what was said to that poor man. My dad was an elder and said a little is how I know that.
Well, my point was, it hit me and my mom very hard. I decided there was only one place to go,,,,,,,,,the big barn......... we had tons of hay that you could get lost in up in the loft. When I got there, I heard sobbing, and it was my Mom. I guess that was her place too and I never knew it until that day. She told me to come and sit with her it was ok, she didnt want to be alone anyway. I prefered to be alone, but I stayed with her and we talked , cried and even laughed remember some of the things Bro. C did.
So , anytime my mother saw me heading to the barn or I saw her heading to the barn , we knew what it meant,,, alone time and thinking time.
I would sometimes lay in the hay, listening to the birds, or the horses below, my little dog would always be by my side, just a little poodle but she thought she was a big dog. I would go down and get a brush and brush my horse and it really helped.
To this day if I see a horse, or smell the smells of a barn,,,,,,,,,,, I have such a stirring in my heart for those times.
I hope one day to have a barn again, and I can promise , that is where I will be most of the time. THe only difference is , I will probably be reflecting, good things about my family, my kids and I will be thinking how lucky I am.
For now my hubby and I drive out to the bayou, or the lake when we need to have so solitude. In the wee hours of the mornings I sit on a swing in the front yard,,,,,,,,and all three of my kittens , come to sit on my lap , and my little pug is with me too.