I hope you don't mind if I use your comment to flesh out what a professional marriage counselor would say.
I sincerely hope that anyone im married to loves our kids more than me
A healthy family starts with a healthy marriage, which means your spouse needs to be your priority. I know that may sound counterintuitive, but it makes sense when you think about it.
Men are prone to prioritizing their jobs over their wives and rationalizing it as being, "for the good of the family." After all, food and clothing and shelter cost money and that doesn't grow on trees.
Little by little, the things that make a marriage enjoyable and worthwhile fade away and in the end, they are not materially different than a divorced couple living under the same roof.
Similarly, women have a tendency to prioritize their children over their husbands and rationalizing it in a very similar way.
And the exact same thing happens. The relationship withers and in the end, they are for all intents and purposes, a divorced couple whose only common interest is the children.
And anybody who thinks children do not pick up on this is fooling themselves.
I think the offense here is that the CO's advice was one-sided and therefore hypocritical. (i.e. I doubt very much if he thinks wives are more important than Elder meetings.)
The JW faith is notorious for stealing time away from couples to the detriment of marriages. Depending upon what you read, a married couple needs 8 - 12 hours of quality time together for the relationship to be healthy.