A quick summary of my situation: I have known TTATT since at least 2010. My wife and teenage son are still in. (He is my step-son. I only mention that because it is relevant in this situation. You can see some of my previous posts for additional details.) Things have not been going well at home. My wife and I have not slept in the same room for at least 6 months. We can’t have a conversation without getting into an argument, so typically we don’t talk.
My son is unbaptized, but is working toward baptism. However, he has “worldly” associates and a possible girlfriend. I told him that I want to talk to him in private when his mother is not around. I just want to see where he is with everything. His mother will not let me talk to him in private for fear that I will turn him to apostasy (yeah, I know). Yet she will sit in her car with him and talk to him so I can’t hear their conversation.
I just want to tell my son that you can’t work towards baptism and have friends who are not in the org. It seems that no one else is telling him this. Since I am a step-father, I have no parental rights and she uses that to her advantage. The elders know this, but they don’t seem to care. Let me be perfectly clear: I don’t want him to get baptized at all. But my fear is that he will get baptized and then get reproved or worse because of his friends. They’re not bad kids at all, but they’re “unbelievers”.
It is just a really messed up situation. My wife is not allowing me to talk to my son. I have no legal standing and very few people to talk to about it.