This is so, so sad. It disgusts me to see what a religion can do to people.
I just watched 'Spotlight' there was a quote in the movie. The victims did as they were told because the priests were like God and: 'how do you say no to God, right'
Shunning is the same. They obey because they think the Org is God.
I know you are a strong person pale.emperor but I'm so sorry that happened to you.