Thanks for sharing some fascinating stories (or even hinting at them).
I wonder how many of us levered ourselves out of the WTS because we met someone who made us feel special in a romantic way. Not that we met someone who controlled us out of it, but where we felt like a real individual.
I suspect that many of these relationships didn't work out for us in a long-term way - we weren't ready for a relationship, and we probably weren't even ready to pick someone who was a good candidate (I wasn't, both counts), but I bet a lot of us were so starved for affection that we bolted as soon as we got some from another source.
"Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd." Voltaire Love and doughnuts,