Yes, I guess that's the case if you don't get it.
So, one of the reasons you’ve been getting push back is because there seems to be platitudes stacked upon weak definitions. When you say “unconditional” it means “without conditions”. Conditions can be anything - literally anything.
The vast majority of "love" on this planet is conditional love. Meaning if you do "this or that" Then I will love you.
That is one form of conditional love. It’s a form of affirmative condition. There could be negative conditions too - “Don’t do X or else I won’t love you”. For example, if you marry a woman, love the woman, and then one day come home to find her banging the neighbor it puts a damper on things. Perhaps you then find out she has been sleeping lots of other men, and the one child you have together isn’t really yours, yet she pursues you in court for alimony and child support. Are you saying that if the man really had “true” love, it wouldn’t be conditional? The man would just continue to love her? The condition in this case negative is: “Don’t fuck other guys” (among others).
In the example of mother and child the condition is the biological relationship shared. After all, the mother doesn’t have that love for other babies.
In your statement above (“Meaning if you do ‘this or that’ Then I will love you.”), you are really citing a form of emotional manipulation. It is very similar to “If you love me, you will have sex with me.”) I would agree that isn’t really loving - it is manipulation.
You divide love up into two categories “conditional” and “unconditional”. And the “unconditional” kind you associate with manipulation. You are conflating ideas.
If that is the only kind of love you know of how do you explain unconditional love to someone.... you can't, there is point of reference.
You can use words. It’s possible. Write more descriptive sentences. See what happened when you tried to expound above? Suddenly it seemed clear you were conflating ideas.
Yet it exist.... believe in it or not.
Sure, if you mean “manipulation-free love”. That definitely exists. That’s exists in the majority of relationships. The manipulative kind is, by definition, dysfunctional.
