Over the years I have been at a Presbyterian, Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Pentacostal, Jewish, Episcopalian, Anglican, Baptist, LDS, nondenominational funerals. They vary in content and length and I have been to some where the minister hardly knew the deceased (mostly because they had not been to church for years or the minister was new). The ministers have been black, Hispanic, white, male, female, smooth in their delivery and not so smooth, reading it out of a book like it was the first time they saw it or skillfully weaving the encouraging words of Jesus into their talk. It helps to grow up with a non-JW father; you have to "obey" your father.
The WTS demonizes churches and many JWs are afraid that "the end" will come when they are under a church roof.
What I did notice was how often the minister made it a point to come to talk to us, recognizing that we have differences in viewpoint but that our sorrow in loss unites us. I had a wonderful conversation with a priest who had come as a fellow relative to one Lutheran funeral. We had a wonderful conversation about the resurrection. Irrev and I still get together with him when we can.
What is sad is so many JWs do not attend JW funerals. When I was a teenager, JW funerals were well-attended. Now if someone has to go on a weekday or drive any distance, they skip it. Especially, if the deceased is a non-JW although family members are JWs, few JWs attend, not even the visitation in a neutral funeral home.
I also saw that people gave money in little envelopes. Sometimes only a dollar, sometimes two. It added up. I helped one family and they collected over $1,000 from such widow's mites. People brought food, cleaned the house, took the car out to be checked and washed, mowed the lawn. And all from "unloving worldly" people. It opened my eyes to another facet of Christian love that was lacking at the Kingdom. JWs can't even send a card. One non-JW family received over 300 cards from neighbors, church members, business colleagues, classmates, people from their lives over 30 years ago. I am trying to makeover that part of my JW personality.
Blondie (still tainted but struggling)