I was a straight A student in high school and attended Georgia's Governor's Honors Program in Mathematics. My parents would not allow me to apply for scholarships to College. When I came home one day with an application for Valdosta State, the local college, my mother got very upset and called one of my friends in the congregation who came over and talked me out of applying. My father would not even discuss the possibility of me going to college, no matter who paid for it.
My life has turned out fairly well. I had a 20 year successful career in Banking and will soon graduate with a Bachelors degree in Marketing. How would my life have turned out if I had gone to college. I will never know. I practice accepting the path that I have taken. There are numerous other paths that I could have chosen at different flux points of my life. We all have these crossroads where we make decisions, some good some bad. Maybe I would have been rich or more successful had I chosen other paths, but if I had I would never have met Mitch, nor have the many good friends that I have today. If I had gone to college in the late 70s and gotten involved with the gay community at that time, I may very well have been long since dead from AIDS, who knows.
You have to learn to live in the present as hard as that is for each of us to do.