well, DJS, I agree with everything you say.
however,you have to admit, what is 'presented' at dating, will change anyway, life changes, you gotta roll with the change.
and for your last paragraph ,your, 'wish list' you'll be lucky to get half.
So basically, you just want to date? if you do, well join the other thousands of single and still searching men on dating sites. I see that all the time,its been over a year that Ive been quietly browsing some of those sites, and its the same people in their profiles.. 'dating nothing serious' really? wtf? go to a bar or stand on a street corner then. um, thats why they are STILL on the dating sites.
this from men in their 50 yet! lol , who do they think they are ,new college grads with buff bodies? lol they cant be that picky. 'average' means a few extra pounds these days.
oh and this one, 'want independent women with her own 'career' and friends'
wow, so that leaves out an awful lot of women. you know, the pool gets smaller the older we get.
I have a job, not a career.
oh wait, maybe Im a career housekeeper, been doing it all my life. it sucks. good pay makes it worth it. well,maybe.
if men don't want a woman waking up next to them, why even look for a relationship?
Id think, women want a commitment.
Ladies, do you want to just 'date' or do you want a commitment? I think we need a new thread..... lol
do you want to just live with someone, or be married.
I for one would like to have someone next to me in the rocking chair on the porch sipping tea when Im 80. but I dont have to have a piece of paper bonding me to someones 'wealth' .
love and trust goes beyond fear of someone walking out on them and leaving them for something petty.
Id tend to think women wouldn't want a man who thinks they are 'dispensable' . they can walk when you loose your job or have to stop working due to health issues. so there is. no commitment, no real love.
Id not want my man to feel that way, that he might be temporary, until I tire of him.
I don't know how old you are DJS or how much time you have , but the older we get the harder it is to find someone willing to be a permanent part of your life , getting older presents new challenges, like failing health, one that each person has to accept as a responsibility. you really have to love someone to be helping them out sometimes.
let me enlighten you to something, many many women who 'put weight on when they get into a relationship, is because they take birth control pills. [what else puts huge amounts of weight on people, almost immediately, in case all readers aren't already aware, is anti depressants and a host of other prescription drugs that mess your hormones and thyroid all up].
Ive seen it a thousand times. or, they have babies, and what happens is, they have huge hormonal changes, have their 'abs' permanently rearranged, and its not always about eating. you think women enjoy loosing a girlish figure? not a chance.
so what is the excuse for all the 40 plus something men, who dont give birth, who I see with bellies spilling out over their belts? beer? pizza, finally reaching the top tier of their employment opportunities and being in a desk job? oh wait, relaxed muscle. lol
and sometimes its just age related.
for now at least Im thin, but woe is me if I get terribly sick, Ill waste away pretty fast with no fat stores,lol