So far my wife has been very respectful of my not attending meetings and hasn't pushed the issue, she didn't even mention the memorial this year.
Our main cause of martial stress is finances. We put too much on credit cards early on in our marriage and now it takes most of our income to cover minimum payments. Sense I woke up I've seen the need to pay those bad boys off and start saving for retirement, and kids college funds. But she is still planning on Armageddon to come and wipe out all the bills and need for retirement. It's a real sore topic when she talks about wanting to put more on credit cards and spend spend spend!
I used to not get how money could cause divorce, but now that we've become so different in our financial mindsets I've seen just how much strain it puts on a marriage.