At A Loss

by azor 31 Replies latest jw friends

  • life is to short
    life is to short

    I also want to say I am so sorry for what you are going through. Just know that many on this board are with you in thought and it is good advice that LisaRose said, please ask for help. People really do want to help but as she said they just don't know what to do and so many do nothing because they are afraid of intruding on you. Like she said all they can say is no, but at least ask.

    My heart goes out to you.


  • millie210

    Hey Azor,

    How is your dear wife today and how are you? Lots of love and support being sent your way!

  • azor

    Thank goodness she is improving. I was getting scared with the fluid building up in her lungs. That has been fixed by the wonderful specialists. She also had the incision stitched up today and got up some.

    Thank you all for your dear thoughts. Including those that pm'd me. I am very uneasy when it comes to all things medical related. We have had a lot of serious scares over the last few years.

  • Xanthippe

    Azor I'm so glad your wife is doing better. You have been through so much with your son, you deserve a break. I had appendicitis with complications, had two ops it was very scary. Take care of yourself you've had a shock.

  • cofty

    Azor I just noticed this thread. I'm so sorry to hear about this crisis. You have been through a dreadful time as a family. Glad to hear your wife is on the mend. I bet you are looking forward to that family trip to Disney.

    It's times like this that you feel the lack of support from family and former friends. Best wishes, please let us know how she is getting on.

  • Chook

    Hang in there Azor , you may have a small family but the bigger family on this forum wish you guys good health and prosperity. Cheers.

  • dozy

    Managers in medical centres / hospitals are used to dealing with toxic family relationships in this kind of situation. If it is a large hospital you might find there is a particular official specially trained in this or has specific responsibilities ( there is in the UK. )

    Why don't you sit down in a side room with the family & just have an honest chat encouraging them to put aside religious & family issues - maybe even with a member of the hospital staff present? I did that with my JW family during a recent family medical crisis & they agreed to see sense & suspend shunning etc during the emergency ( to be reinstated afterward ). The Society has given an allowance for "essential family matters" so you could reason it on JW grounds with references from the Societies literature.

  • wannaexit

    I am really saddened to hear of this situation for you and your wife/family. Hang in there! Hoping that your wife improves and that you can get this behind you.

  • LV101

    Azor - best wishes for a quick and successful recovery for your wife.

  • JeffT

    I'm sorry I didn't see this thread until now. I hope your wife continues to improve.

    Words fail me when I think about the shunning, this is a time when families should pull together.

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