I understand that many on this forum are undertaking a slow fade, over months, years even.
Can I ask what is the benefit of that instead of a fast fade?
as I understand it, the elders only have to deal judicially with people who are still active witnesses, known in the community as witnesses, having contact and influence with witnesses etc. so surely the sooner you stop attending meetings the better. Because then if you do something 'wrong' (be it celebrations, 'apostasy', associating with df'd ones, or immorality etc) the elders hopefully won't chase you to deal with it judicially because you are no longer considered a member of the congregation. At least that is the case where I am, once your gone, they don't seem to care that much.
Have I missed something? Maybe is it an attempt to preserve family relations that needs a slow fade?