So I had my first appointment with a counsellor, of course I explained about being a born in jw, mentally leaving, the penalty of doing so and therefore the mental strain of pretending to be someone I'm not.
Her response was that she couldn't help me with that because leaving a cult was a "lifestyle choice". I tried to say to her that its a cult not a religion and how it brain washed me but no. There's no box to tick for "former cult member" and so they cannot help.
I don't feel like leaving was a lifestyle choice, it was an awakening to a reality that had been hidden from me and now I'm having to sit on the fence of both worlds
Do you think it's a lifestyle choice?
well imo therapists want clients to take responsibility for themselves and for their choices so that they can then find it in themselves to overcome their difficulties.
This is a lot of responsibility to take on board but if you stick with it you will learn to live as a person in your own right rather than as a person who defines him/herself via an organisation even if it is an organisation you want to leave. saying this cos I know how long the nhs can take to assign you another therapist.
I was given 6 sessions and if this is true for you your therapist may be aware that you need to cover enormous ground and he/she may be wanting to get to you as a person to help you cope rather than talk to you about the JW organisation and its effects.
edit: wouldn't ticking the box to say you are making a lifestyle choice indicate to you that you are in charge and not the organisation?