or are we all scared when it comes to relationships?
We date…we marry…we divorce…we put a personal ad out there and we start it all over again. Why? Is it because of something we’re taught in childhood that to be happy we have to have a mate? Is it a need or is it a want?
We’ve heard tales of the great romances in history. We’ve read the great love stories in classic literature. Is this what drives us? Is there really a “soul mate” that Plato speaks of?
Maybe it’s the rarity of that “one and only” that makes us want it and work so hard to find it? But if it’s rare (and I sincerely believe that it is) then could that be why we keep seeking it with such fervor? Like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow…?
Could we not just be happy when we find someone who we are happy with? Must we continue to seek happiness in a multitude of possibilities only to be disappointed? What is it about us that make us not trust ourselves? We can be wonderfully happy with someone and yet we hesitate to release that last bit of whatever you want to call it on the off chance that something better is just around the corner. Are we scared we’ll be hurt? Of course we’re scared. We’ve all been hurt. It’s very scary. No one wants to be hurt. But is it them I don’t trust…or is it myself? Isn’t it all just a roll of the dice? I can trust someone with my very life so why is it so hard to trust them with my heart?
I think…perhaps I believe…that there can be great happiness and love between two people when there is trust, honesty, compassion, respect and honor shared. So, when it’s right in front of you, do we scan the horizon? I know that some of you have wonderful marriages/relationships. I salute you and wish you all the best.
I apologize for this rant/babble. There are so many wonderful people here with such diverse backgrounds and opinions; I felt that perhaps I would be able to get a wider view.