I left the Witnesses in '85; one of my best friends in '94...he still cares what Witnesses think 'cause he's worried about being disfellowshipped. I stopped caring years ago but I obssessed with death and Armegeddon until a couple of years ago! He never worried about that!
We're all so different in our individual reactions to the experience yet bonded by something we all had in common.
My friend and I met in '93 --he didn't know I had been a Witness; I didn't know he was one...not until the following year did he admit that he was a Witness. I was completely shocked. I didnt' go, how wonderful you are one of me...I thought, why the hell didn't you tell me earlier? As close as we were by that point, we immediately had this catalogue of experiences to share, a language so unique that all my other friends VISIT out conversation, but never really understand what it was like.
I don't really know ex-witnesses...I met my friend before he left...One of the things this board has done for me: I've never felt so fricken normal in my life!
I agree with some of the posters: Mulan is one of the most fair, even-handed people I've ever communicated with here.
I find bitterness a normal emotion but it isn't a pleasant feeling to witness or experience.