Sex and Marriage

by nicolaou 27 Replies latest social relationships

  • nicolaou

    Most religions indoctrinate a standard sexual 'morality' into their followers. Sex before marriage is wrong, gay sex is wrong, same sex marriage is wrong, masturbation is wrong.

    Let's not turn this into another religion bashing thread (too easy), I was wondering how much of that pre-packaged thinking you still hold to?

    I still value marriage, more than ever. In fact I'd say the restrictions on pre marital sex actually cheapen marriage; how many horny but frustrated teenage JW's did you know who got married on a flood of rampant hormones?!

    As for sex in all it's glorious forms? Go for it I say!

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    i married at 20--in order to have sex for the first time. that marriage somehow lasted 14 years.

    my second marriage--24 years--sadly she died--at 58.

    i then married again--a year later. but that was a mistake--i divorced her.

    in the latter 2 cases we lived together first---so sex was never an issue---just a normal natural occurence.

    i plan to marry again next year

    in between these bouts of marital bliss i had numerous one-offs and flings.

  • Billy ex Blaze
    Billy ex Blaze
    I still believe in the sanctity of marriage. With that stated I believe that adultery is far worse than formication.
  • Darkknight757
    I like the idea of waiting to be married before having sex. Makes it kinda special. That's what the wife and I did and things have been great for 17 years. Of course learning TTATT is making life interesting.
  • Sabin
    I believe in happiness & for me that entails marriage, for someone else it doesn't, who am I to judge. As long as you do your best not to hurt others (impossible I know) but I mean not to deliberately hurt others then I'm happy for you. It is easy for me to believe in marriage, my experience of it has been one of love.
  • nicolaou
    I like the idea of waiting to be married before having sex. Makes it kinda special.

    I get that but what about compatibility? It can be a shock to realise she doesn't actually want you to wear your Batman outfit!

  • ttdtt

    Just about everyone I know who got married got married young for sex, as did I (fyi - I deeply love my wife). Having been a elder for a long time (thankfully out of that now), I cant tell you the number of marital issues that directly correlated to people getting married for the wrong reasons. I am personally very bitter that I did not get a chance to have a normal pre-marriage sex life, as well as having a normal sex life after marriage. The guilt and other issues associated with being in the cult dealing with what parts of the body you could kiss or stick something into, has deep roots.
    This cult along with many other religions are the ones who have perverted sex, not those who would like to have it.
    To be fair its the bible that did the perversion early on. It is the most destructive book ever written.

  • Giordano

    My bride and I were both 'experienced' virgins by the time we married. The day of the wedding there was a snow storm, the roads cleared........ the wedding commenced......... we then needed to cross a modest mountain to a neighboring town that had a decent motel for our first night together.

    The snow was still coming down over the mountain, the road was passable but dangerous........ no way to go back.... so onward we went.

    It dawned on me that if I/we should die that night I would be resurrected as a sexless wonder according to the J.W. belief.

    I doubled down on my concentration....... I think I even prayed One of those "Jehovah......I need your help here......really!!

    We made it! Checked into our room........... laid down on a bed together for the first time ever and..... fell asleep in one another's arms.

    As of November 2nd this year that was 52 years ago!

    When we got back from our honeymoon the presiding minister told me with a grin that he had received a phone call from a JW couple that they saw us leaving a motel room in the morning and what was he going to do about? Nothing he said........... I married them the day before.

  • the girl next door
    the girl next door

    Marriage is a religious tool and government business contract designed to put money into the court coffers. Don't believe it? Go through a contentious divorce. With a JW. If you marry someone without having lots of sex with them you are a complete idiot. Why not have lots of sex, make a commitment to each other in your heart if inclined, enjoy it while it lasts?

    Probably not one of my more benevolent posts, but marriage and abstinence is completely overrated.

  • LoveUniHateExams

    I still think that marriage and fidelity are good things. I think that sex before marriage should be ok, well, I suppose it's up for each couple to decide this.

    I think it's unhealthy to masturbate too much or get into porn.

    The odd one off the wrist is fine, however ...

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