Witness my fury: no he doesn't look at porn, he would be honest with me about that, I asked and I even said "if you do it's okay I understand but just be honest with me" he says no and I believe him, he says he has no interest in watching porn I even suggested ( just to see what he says) and again an adamant no. You are right about tolerating it I wouldn't, i caught my 1st husband with it and i was furious, but with this situation I was willing to try anything... He doesn't masturbate, I suggested that too after a DR. told him too, he says he "I just don't have the interest of doing that, it does nothing to me" ... He was taking the brown & Blue pill and I think he has gotten used to the fact "I don't have any pills it won't work, I know my body"... He did have a great drive when we first started going out for the 2 years when I decided to come back from being DF, we stopped because of you know the fornication thing, he admitted to me recently that it changed on his part because we stopped and this is were I think the Aspies thing is, Aspies love routine you take them out of that routine it's distress for them and then the routine of nothing for 2 years until we got married, but he agreed to it at that time to wait to make it special I can pick up my drive like nothing. He had a great drive not sure where did it go.....Can you explain what you mean I didn't get this part: Maybe your gaydar doesnt work? You missed the aspergers after all. (sorry)
dubstepped: I naturally always had a good drive 3-4 is low average for me, my ex hubs and I never had an issue it was constantly, at least once a day, our drives matched... No I don't have a whole to fill in, intimacy whether in the bedroom, outside, like holding hands, kissing, hugging, affection are all essential to my being, I am a natural lovable person and intimacy/sex is like the icing of the cake for me, some people love to receive gifts and being given lots of words of affirmation of how great they are, tooo me all physical touch is very important for me. I love closeness, I love fulfilling my partner in every aspect and I am very selfless, even when I am tired and sleepy if he would to wake me up or come on to me I would give in to him because I want to share that closeness with him, it's not just sex, its intimacy of the it would keeps me watered in love, hard to explain... telling him no even if I am very tired is like I am punishing myself too because I want that closeness and will find the will power to share it with him, I guess I am just very selfless in that area, I never say no and I never reject him because I know the times he's done that to me it feels awful. I went to the doctor myself and he says its normal and many men will kill to have their wife's interested in sex/intimacy....He is open to go see a professional to help with his anxiety... I guess I don't want 5 years from now being in this same situation and wasted 5 years, scares are being rooted in me and I don't want it to get to a point were I start having security issues.