What is the Craziest Thing You Are Aware Of Someone Being Disfellowshipped For?

by Sea Breeze 45 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Sea Breeze

  I knew a lady who was disfellowshipped for 20 years for smoking. She finally went back to the KH and since they couldn't find her paperwork, (all the former elders were dead) she was allowed back in without reinstatement. No one even remembered her. She had quit smoking years previously and could have gone back any time. She thought the shunning was permanent. She eventually became a Christian and was shunned permanently then though.

  I have always wanted to talk to someone disfellowshipped (or divorced) for "extreme spiritual endangerment". Seems like that would cover just about anything you wanted it to.
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  LongHairGal

  SEA BREEZE:

  I can see that happening. Now they are so desperate for people they would probably embrace her!

  Back years ago when I was in the Witnesses and there was a considerable population, it seems the elders were arrogant and would ‘push’ certain people out. People could be disfellowshipped because of elder’s egos over some issue. I perceived the elders were bullies.

  Because I knew people in the religion (rank & file) were unreliable with the culture of unaccountability that exists in the JWs, I never had any important dealings with anybody.. If there was a dispute some bullying elder would have said ‘you should let it go’. I wouldn’t have any of this.

  I had no intention of being victimized by some idiot there - which is what the religion expects. They want little victims there who tolerate anything and won’t speak up… I would have taken somebody to court. That would not have gone over well.
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  Gorb

  I remember a 70+ year old brother, smoking secretly in his shed, this was found out by his JW wife, he got DF because she told the elders.

  2 months later the DF brother died because of a heart attack.

  What a sad end of life. The snitch sister kept his family name. She got the guts.

  G.
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  mrquik

  Got DF'd for leaving my wife and marrying someone out of the cult. I expected that but what I didn't expect was not being reinstated after a year. Had a member of the committee who had an axe to grind even though he had been disfellowshipped earlier for the same offense. I asked him to his face what the problem was and was told that because I was well liked and respected, they needed to make an example of me. After three years I got fed up and left. He recently died and I couldn't resist visiting him in the cemetery and pissing on his grave....
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  Dagney

  I was pretty shocked years ago when a friend was DF'd for "disobeying counsel." They can DF for anything. As one elder told me "you win no battles with elders."
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  LongHairGal

  DAGNEY:

  What that smug elder told you is unfortunately true.. I came to see that people with a brain or a sense of justice could not stay in the toxic Witness religion.

  Even though the 1995 Generation teaching is what made me finally get out of there, I had a list of grievances. This issue of corrupt, stupid or egotistical elders was right at the top and the criticism of responsible working people next on my list!
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  Balaamsass2

  Around 2001, a divorced middle-aged sister was seen cycling with a single middle-aged doctor one afternoon. The elders questioned her about it, and she told them, "Nothing happened, and it was none of their business." They disfellowshipped her for "rebelliousness and a Jezebel attitude." Weird...and mean.
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  Sea Breeze

  a divorced middle-aged sister was seen cycling with a single middle-aged doctor

  Probably DF'd for pedaling
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  slimboyfat

  Smoking and practising Feng Shui are the strangest cases I know about.

  Also for not refusing alternative service, a few months before it was officially announced that alternative service is a conscience matter, because he heard that the announcement was coming and wasn’t prepared to reject alternative service and possibly be sentenced as a criminal just because of unlucky timing.
  
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  blondie

  Brazen conduct:

  The Elder's manual shows that associating with a disfellowshipped nonrelative continues as a disfellowshipping offence by including such association under the categorization of brazen conduct, the following is something a person can be df'd for under the "brazen conduct" category.

  "Though this is not an exhaustive list, brazen conduct may be involved in the following if the wrongdoer has an insolent, contemptuous attitude made evident by a practice of these things:
  
  Willful, continued, unnecessary association with disfellowshipped nonrelatives despite repeated counsel." Shepherd the Flock of God (2011) p.60