On the topic of shunning. Listen to the young woman in the recording on jw facts. Scroll down (near bottom of page) to the recording on this link.
http://www.jwfacts.com/watchtower/disfellowship-shunning.php
The elders come across as heartless when they question her for the fact HER OWN PARENTS came round to help her and her child, or for simply giving her and her child a lift to the airport. It's absolutely disgusting to think that she is condemned by the elders for the fact that her own mum and dad were simply giving her a little needed support.