I concur with Simons comment here however it has taken me a few years to get there. be
Involving an Attorney just a day before they were to meet in a JC "with or without" me which put the brakes on the whole thing was very empowering and healing. The legal letter contained a threat of action if anything was done to besmirch my or my families name etc .
One year later my status remains "untouched" but totally shunned of course .
Having said that I am due to meet with one member of the hierarchy this week - at his request to just "chat" to me.
I shall let you know how this pans out. I will be asking the questions and not the other way around.
Dont hand them your power !!