I was speaking to hubby tonight. I was explaining why I can't and won't go back to the KH. I tried to explain my feelings as best I could without annoying him or making him feel upset. I mentioned many issues including the shunning policy and the fact that the WTS encourages families to break up because of it. He read me the following:
Matt 10:33-39 "..but whoever disowns me before men, I will also disown him before my Father who is in the heavens. Do not think I came to put peace upon the earth; I came to put, not peace, but a sword. For I came to cause division, with a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a young wife against her mother-in-law. Indeed, a man's enemies will be persons of his own household. He that has greater affection for father or mother than for me is not worthy of me; and he that has greater affection for son or daughter than for me is not worthy of me. And whoever does not accept his torture stake and follow after me is not worthy of me. He that finds his soul will lose it, and he that loses his soul for my sake will find it."
I tried to explain that Jesus was just emphasising the importance of following him whole-souled if you truly wanted to be acceptable to him, but I didn't think he meant he wanted to break up families - the family unit is important to God.
What else could I have said? I was a bit stumped by this scripture. I know many of you don't believe in the Bible. I am still in the process of looking into it, but I would like to give him a scriptural answer because that is all he will listen to. What exactly did Jesus mean by those words? Hubby thinks it means that, if you leave the 'truth', you must expect to be shunned by your family. He said the family are not doing anything wrong by shunning a wayward one - the person leaving is the guilty party and must take full responsibility for whatever happens to them.
I'd appreciate any help you can give. I know what I want to say but I can't think of the words or other scriptures to back up what I say.