I even wrote a DA letter first and they still announced it as a DF'ing.
When I DA myself, I apparently didn't sign my letter. I wrote several letters that day to my family members explaining my decision to DA and several other issues in my life, so I may have not signed that particular letter.
When an elder called, I told him that, yes, it was my letter. I offered to send them another letter and to be sure to sign it, but he said, no, don't do that. They kept wanting to meet with me and kept hinting that it wasn't so bad, yada, yada, yada. They would help me, yada, yada, yada. They had also been in contact with the CO and DO and had written some letters to Bethel.
Well as it suited me to spend a little more time with my family to help them see my point of view, I went along with it. It bought me some time. After about 5 or 6 weeks of jerking me around, they finally conference called me, asked me point blank, and I told them I no longer wanted to be a Jehovah's Witness.
I don't know what they told the congregation. DA or DF, I really didn't care. I just knew that I didn't want to be a JW anymore, and whatever they did about it was beyond my control. It was stressful enough as it was. I was tired of their Kangaroo Court rules and petty ploys to control my life. I think it really bothered them that I didn't let it bother me.
So I would suggest to you and others who may be faced with this during the holiday season, that you just let them do what they want and so no interest or concern about it. Just tell them, "Whatever!" It really pisses them off and helps you keep your sanity through the whole thing.