Do You Ever Think Of ALL The Wasted Time Because You Were a JW?

by minimus 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • minimus

    The longer you are out the more you see how a cult steals all your time, resources and energy. We wasted so much because we were Witnesses! 👎

  • ToesUp

    Yep...would have more in savings for retirement. Thankfully we got out in time to hopefully save some money. Our older family members are screwed, living off of social security and wondering where their paradise is.

  • joe134cd

    When I saw a video on you tube of a RC that very much resembled a pentecostal revival meeting. I become so enraged this was the actual txt I sent to my ultra orthodox PIMI relative (with the links included).

    Wow just wow. What more can I say.

    Even right down to the same coloured TV screens.

    I sort of don't know what to make of it. Shocked, disgusted, upset, angry or just out right plagiarism. I'm sorry I had to show it to you. But it's incredible what it has morphed into.

    Or that I have just been made a fool of for all those years. Very dissopointed.

    Needless to say I never got a reply. I think deep down he knew.

  • Are you serious
    Are you serious

    Yes I do. Not only the time but all of the energy I wasted for the garbage. My biggest regret now is not doing something years ago when I began having doubts. I wish I had had the guts to do something back then but as we all know it's difficult to overcome the fear knowing what lies ahead if you go against the org. Oh well at least I'm out now and really enjoying life.

  • freddo

    A little.

    But I truly see no point in looking back with regret even though I am in my mid fifties and made some unwise financial decisions (mostly inaction toward retirement planning rather than stupid moves with any spare money) which over the last five to ten years I have slowly tried to rectify.

    I love the extra time that being a "name only" semi-active jw allows me to enjoy.

    I especially love shrugging my shoulders and smiling at elders who try - less and less now - to get me to reconsider "reaching out" to what I "once was". (To them a busy elder - to me a busy fool.)

    I also have a little group of like minded "brothers" around the circuit that I can vent with and socialise with even to the extent of laughing with each other about Stephen Lett, winking at the CO's "spin" on meeting attendance and ministry, shaking our heads at the mental cases that have become a significant number in our kingdom halls and rolling our eyes at Regional Convention crappery!

  • minimus

    I remember some gifted people who were never able to make their abilities blossom because of the religion. Some could've been professional athletes. Others were musicians, singers . Straight A Students who Pioneered rather than pursue their gift

  • LongHairGal


    Right now I'm watching a rerun of one of Leah Remini's series about her church. It is so familiar to the JWs and I realize I have NO tolerance anymore for any of this religious stuff.

    The idea that we all wasted time in the JWs is an understatement and some wasted more time than others. I'm just grateful I was not raised a JW and could at least reconnect with the past. I'm also more than grateful I ignored their foolish talk about careers and am retired now.

  • Londo111
    All the time.
  • EverApostate

    Thank GOD (if it really exists) that I did pioneering only once during my 11 years as a JW. Looking back, I am so happy that I did only the bare minimum FS per month. (Around 5 hours)

    Other than that I don't regret having wasted much time in it. I did offend a lot of christian friends/relative though, accusing them that they are worshiping the devil. That's what I regret.

  • Phoebe

    I gave them my entire life - 64 years.

    I could have gone to university, I could have done so many, many things but was constantly stopped by the WT.

    If I allow myself to think, I get so angry. But I won't give them a second more.

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