The best I can do is take care of myself and my loved ones. I don’t want to get caught up in a constant state of anger as that would not help as mentioned and I agree.
Number one, your a worldly person now. Not a freaking ignorant JW. So you can step away from that past life. What you can give your kids is a little better world that you contributed something to.
What can you do to help? You can become a volunteer in an area that you feel can benefit by your knowledge, energy, passion. Or just because they need an extra body.
Look around and see how many volunteers there are in your community. Unpaid volunteers trying to help make our lives a little better. Working with schools and school children....... in hospitals and libraries, at the pet shelter. Helping the underprivileged by raising money for food, for health care. Sharing knowledge, Hobby groups who incorporate their hobby into the community.
In the last 20 or so years we were proud that we were able to help. Started a national advocacy group for those who needed a voice to protect their safety and income related to the sale of their art and where and how they were able to exhibit and sell their work........active 11 years.
Spent 7 years volunteering with a historic foundation that protected the history and historical buildings. Why? because it was our community's history and it was worth saving for new generations and why? Because 12% of our community's jobs are involved with historic tourism.
8 years coordinating an artist's studio tour. Why? Because it is greatly loved by our small city and it is free and once a year you and your family can visit the studio's where the real creating takes place. Watch a blank canvas become a painting. A lump of Clay become a vessel. Meet the artists, watch them work , talk to them one on one. There's magic being done at each studio and artists willing to share what they do.
The other day I had a plumber come to my house I sat with him while he worked on my furnace. Turns out he was raised by a mother with mental issues who favored harsh religions who think they have the truth (Not JW's). He was home schooled or not by his mother.......... reading a book at the kitchen table by himself and taking a test each month. He lasted one year then quite it all and went to work.... eventually he apprenticed with a master plumber. For the last eight years he has taught a plumber's school a couple of nights a week sharing his knowledge and helping people learn a career.
He's now the head engineer/superintendent re plumbing in a major military college. It turned out he was actually doing me a favor.
The people I volunteered with are the very best people to associate with.
My wife is a volunteer as well, she conducts a water aerobics class....... three session's a week. She works for free. The 'walking wounded' attend her class. People of all ages who have been through hip replacement, shoulder injuries, who need to reduce weight, strength training etc.She has no degree. Just a lot of love and care for her 'students'. The water keeps the exercise gentle and safe.
So since leaving the JW's these things have become what we value most. That and being surrounded by hundreds of other volunteers.
This is the best we can do. And if we have made a contribution so be it.