A brother once confided in me that if he were ever to have sexual relations with a woman, on the sly, it could never be a Witness. He said that they are fickle and riddled with guilt about everything and anything and the probability would be too great that she would have a change of heart and have him in front of a JC.
Another brother, an elder, once suggested to me that, who knows? maybe in Paradise men and women will be able to know each other sexually without all of the problems that we have nowadays. He said, "we don't know. We just have to make it there."
I'm glad for you to have a friend, OND. Myself, I'm very careful what I say to anybody in the congregation. They may consider their personal knowledge of you as redeemable capital if they ever need a boost. That's why I spill my guts on an anonymous forum.;)