Blondie I know quite a few weird experiences that happened in my congregation.It is beyond belief how silly n in most cases have no clue at all about dating,courting leave alone getting engaged n marrying!!!
One a brother just saw a photo of a sis in our cong.he was from another town totally and very very far;pole apart! He liked the pic so much, this sis is beautiful so no surprise in falling for looks. He sends proposals thru the elder of his cong. The sis's father said that both families should get aquainted better first, thereby getting to really see first hand who is who n whats whatetc. well immediately calls started n kinda pestering started ove rthe phone itself wnating information ie age, education, spiritual qualities, need to hear her voice over the phone, can she come n talk etc...weird stuff! This sis immediately felt invade, pressured needlessly. She actually confided in me saying she htinks they will just arrange everything without her or her families consent (coz they had a couple of elders as family from his side).The father kept on insisting come n meetup with each others families which will be a start.
When it got too muc to bear, the sis told her father," I am refusing to even get to know, or meet up with any of him/his family/elders etc. I do not want to go ahead with anything coz they are calling the shots n seem to not have any regard for how things must go about, so materialistic too(already sent expensive gifts for the sis to wear n take pics of n send back the pics to them)". The whole family felt weird about it all n no one seemed comfortable.So when the next phone call comes, the father calls the whole thing off (cant even call a thing coz their was nothing to start with), giving some reasons. The elder on their side flips his lid, saying "you cant do that, we have gone so far into this ,everyone in the cong has been told about this engagement to be, marriage to be, phtotos passed to all n all details about the sister. this will bring reproach on the said groom to be.you cant not do this.I will complain to the elders." Obvious how weird n strange they were , it seemed like groom to be in his dreams was obssesed by her picture, that he became like a stalker,abusive.
Dont know what happened though after this. Of course the sis told me that her father stood by er supporting her reasons all the way through which was all that saved her ass from getting into a forced marriage with a gun to her head I suppose.
I do know some chilling ones. It takes all sorts drawn to the "so called truth "
Sorry for the wall of text and poor english.