I agree with Cognac, find the new Scientology documentary to watch with her and it can cause some serious cognitive dissonence. Maybe not have an effect immediately, as she would likely bury the initial thoughts. But it should haunt her.The similarities are too great to ignore completely.
Make it a concern that you don't want your children exposed to Scientology so you want to make sure you both are well informed of their workings.Stress your disgust of Scientology specifically.
I do a lot of "seed planting" with my husband. Not mentioning the JW , but using other situations in other religions or government etc., to speak up about as he sits and agrees with me, sometimes speaking up with his own disgust or anger, until his face goes into this strange blank look, as he is processing the similarities. We don't talk about it, I just let it simmer within him. Maybe someday....
Watching the documentary about North Korea was another one. Sometimes I throw in a JW buzzword when describing something controlling/disgusting/just-plain-wrong ;-) Usually at the end of the discussion and I find a reason that I must do something else. But I keep an eye on his face for a while. It is interesting sometimes to watch the battle within his mind.
The best thing to get her out is to have her watch JW.org. Diligently watch everything that is being said and dissect it to the bare bone using reason. There's nothing better for her. If she is good material to go out, she will be out in a year. If she was born to be a drone, nothing will get her out, not JWfacts, not JWN, not even Tony.
Lisa Rose: Sometimes the most effective thing is to ask a JW to explain something, then raise questions. A lot of the logic falls apart if you question it. You have to be very careful to not arouse the cult mind set, open challenges dont work unless they are already questioning. Pay attention if you go to meetings to find things to ask about, ask her to explain it.
And it's best to have some kind of "innocent" source for all of those questions, ie, a return visit asked me.......... or a guy at work said......... or my non-JW family member told me to watch this.......
Be confused. Be concerned about it. Be sincere in asking her to help you resolve these questions. She'll find there are too many questions that cannot be answered. If she tries going to the Elders with them, she'll find they are questions that cannot even be asked.
"without bias"---now THAT'S funny!
When approaching Elders with concerns what they usually do is dismiss your concerns by quoting a scripture or two then placing blame on you for something. That simple!!
One should be able to correctly evaluate the WTS/JWS by virtue of its own publications.
For example the constant drumming and numerous postulations decades a part of the WTS implying that mankind had only lived 6000 years ie. 1975
Its a religious publishing house started by idealistic amateur bible theologians who just happened to own their own
JW facts is probably the best web site showing all the miscued doctrines by this religious publishing organization.
There is also a lot very knowledgeable people here that can help you out with questions.
JWfacts is a wonderful site.
Mrs Stumpy just read your post and asked me to respond. We all know how you feel mate. I was where you are this time last year. My wife too wouldn't have read anything "apostate". That's why I just used the Watchtower publications to wake Mrs Stumpy up. It is hard to refute something that has been written with so called "guidance from the holy spirit" :)
I slowly showed her my research over a period of a couple of months as I was finding it myself. This process seemed to work well as she could see I was very serious about studying everything. I suggest taking it slowly with your wife too. It will be very traumatic for her. From your post I can tell you love her a lot, so however long it takes will be well worth it if she does eventually wake up.
You are welcome to download scans of a good portion of my research below. A lot of it is on Jwfacts but these are scans of the original articles. The best option would be to get original hard copies of what you want to show her... but not everyone has unlimited access to the KH library like I did.
Here they are in PDF format. (Click the 'Download through your browser' link - not the big red button)...
Light Brighter Part A:
Light Brighter Part B:
Deceit and Half Truths:
Propaganda and Manipulation:
Sex and Divorce:
1975 Part A:
1975 Part B:
1260, 1290, 1335 and 2300 Days:
Hope these help a little. Good luck mate.