Mulan, I really feel badly for your Mom, who through no fault of her own - the infirmities of age - is unable to get to the Hall as much as she would like to. Aren't there any pioneers in that congregation? They are out and about all the time, working out their personal salvation preaching the good news of the kingdom: I'd think they'd relish the opportunity to visit a friendly and appreciative face on a regular basis.
Big Red's comment about how they don't know what to do unless they are told reminded me of this, posted here a couple of days ago,
"All that is not mandatory is forbidden"
A clear mark of a mind control cult.