Sparks, your opening post had me in stitches. I was beside myself with laughter.
I attended different congregations here in Canada, and a couple in the USA (visiting).
When I think back to my first one, it was seemingly OK, but after careful observation it was like, if you were not brought into the Truth by such-and such you were never embraced by them. It was so odd! The people who did not introduce you into the Truth nor studied with you, spoke to you when you either made a mistake or to correct you . It would really get you down.
One older sister, she used to compare the congregation to the movie: Watership Down (animated). She had nicknames for certain ones in the Kingdom Hall. She was not malicious, but tried to humour the imperfections of others.
Another congregation I was in, was in a small city. It was OK, initially, but like any place, familiarity gradually displays cracks and faults. The small city congregation had some nice people. But the cliques.....good grief! Too much.
A rural congregation I attended was fun. The people there were not uptight, and were a bit rough around the edges but overall: sincere.
When I attended a congregation in south central Ontario. It was like: WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED HERE? It was so cold, cool, and unfriendly. I noticed people did not smile and it was very unhappy . Even people who moved there said that to me after I commented on the obvious displays of lethargy and indifference.
In Toronto, I attended a few congregations here and there. Some were OK, while others were drab, pretentious or dull. Some congregations were like fashion shows, some were modest, others austere.
I don't think it was unique here. I think you'd run into a wide variety of congregation-types no matter where you went.
I know many of the people who attended the meetings were sincere, albeit miguided, but believed in it whole heartedly. That actually makes me more sad when I think about it. Good people whose lives are wasted.
Sparks, good post and very funny too. I think having a sense of humour in retrospect has helped many of us exDubs to heal and move forward. I know it has helped me immensely. I mean: Rayzorblade was once a JW?
Hilarious in when I recount my experiences and the unnecessary torture I put myself through. Dumb as a stump I was.
My favourite brothers and sisters: Sister Grouchy, Brother Distorted, Sister Revlon, Brother Mucous, Elder Decibel, Pioneer Bulemia, elderly Sister Snotty
Edited by - RAYZORBLADE on 14 February 2003 0:57:24