Both of the above. This is a point very few people see, these guys will hate us regardless of what we do. As far as the Jews are concerned the palistinians want everything, not just a separate country. If you want to live as the Muslims in Iran or Saudia Arabia, by all means tell your congressman to vote down any war effort.
Did you see that movie "Independence Day" where the alien creature is in the lab at Area 51and the President of the United States(yummy Bill Paxton played the president) asks the alien creature if they can come to a compromise...and the alien responds "NO COMPROMISE!" And, then Bill(the yummy president) asks the alien what they can do....and the alien responds "DIE, DIE!"
Well, Bin Laden only wants one thing from the westerners of this world, and that is to "DIE." He is the Satan of the Muslim world, and their will be compromise where he is concerned.
What would it take for Islamic extremists to give up on terror attacks against the west?
There is no logical answer but to wipe the extremists out. If they are permitted to live, they will continue to find someone who is not to their liking and try to annihilate them, as they are, the people of the USA.