The baptism is off.....
Well, AK, if you honestly believe that the JWs have the "truth" and you refuse to give up whatever activity prevents your being baptised, you are as much "dead meat" at the big A as anyone who had been baptised and subsequently left the BOrg.
Sorry if this sounds blunt, but it's true. Really think about what you want to do. You have seen only the tip of the iceberg as far as rules and regulations and "don'ts" are concerned. You cannot live the life you choose and be a JW. You will have to live the life they choose for you.