I joined this site 12 years ago and I revisited it yesterday to get some information on CoC's status.
Frankly saying, I've tried to be a complete ex-ex-JW so that ex-JW things would not drive my life mad. Due to my linguistic barrier of writing in a foreign language, 12 years ago, I could not but read and read and read this site. It was very very enlightening and had good influence to me a lot ,however I was too much addicted to reading ex-JW sites to live a normal life. My addiction was so immoderate. I couldn't sleep decent sleep and even my job was affected ^^;;
There's a Korean ex-JW site, http://cafe.daum.net/christianfreedom. It was another source of obsession. So I made a decision to leave ex-JW society. One day, I translated Simon's post about being ex-ex and post it in the Korean site(http://cafe.daum.net/christianfreedom/JgxM/2060). I started to limit visiting ex-JW sites in Korean and English. It may seem silly but it was really needed for me at that time.
What motivates me today to write this post is not what but who. It's my father. Last year, He DAed himself after 30 years of his JW life. He served his local congregation mostly as a presiding elder or overseer(old terminology ^^). It shocked nearby local Congs. and maybe the Korean branch.
10 years ago, I had so many troubles with my father. At that time, I felt that there scarcely would be any hope for me and my father to understand each other in spiritual view points. 6 years ago, when I was running a business in China with many financial difficulties, he visited me and said my financial failure should be related with my unfaithfulness to Jehovah ㅠㅠ. So I never expected our union in ex-JW status but now I have that union.
He said his mind moved after reading Raymond Franz's story. We don't have a Korean version of CoC but a very brief document was available. That booklet was translated from a Japanese document of an interview between Raymond and a Japanese physician who was never a JW but had a JW as his wife. Volume is about one sixth of CoC.
I suggested him toward soft-landing way but he chose hard one by submitting DA letter to the local Cong. He even half-finished his own book at the point of DA. As a son, I worried a lot about his future mental shocks that I myself suffered agonizingly. So, I reluctantly help him in the matter of his book. However it was finished and published formally at his age of 72 this year. I asked him several times to reconsider the formal publishing in worrying of his emotional breaks which might occur when his 30 yrs' JW friends would reject his calls, which is real situation now. My father was strong. He is saying he feels happier no matter what he lost because it's right and honest way.
His book is being distributed in on-and-off-line ways domestically.
He advertised his book at Korean 4 major newspapers.
The title of the book is "15 questions after 30 years of JW"
His 15 questions are like the below,
1. On the matter of the one generation
2. Sixth day's end at 1975?
3. Omission of 1914 in Awake's purpose
4. Depression from waiting / Didn't the generation die who expected to see Armageddon alive?
5. If anonymous donation, why written service report?
6. On the matter of higher education
7. Is it conscientious or religious objection?
8. UN NGO
9. Changing policy on blood
10. Annointing elders directed by holy spirit?
11. What about humanitarian salvation besides spiritual one?
12. Freedom of speech in Org. / Disfellowshipping
13. Birthday party, Women trousers, Weight training, Addressing Bro to the elderly in Asian culture, Watchtower study, Political polling
14. Is it biblical to use terminology of 'Governing body'?
15. Faithful and wise slave of Mathew 24:44,45,47
I'm proud of him.
By the way, a band of Korean young ex-JW bros have become passionate in helping Korean JWs to read Raymons' COC. In fact, translation is about to be done soon. The thing is legal one, copy-right. In 2001, when I inquired, Commentary press replied that it would let me publish Korean version, but I can't contact them. As a matter of fact, I'm not sure from whom I should gain permission since Bro & Sis Fraz have left us.
Is there any one who can direct me to Dan and Debbie Dykstra? Any small advice will be appreciated. It might be able to make miracles again and again like my father's one.