I'm really proud of you, hon. You are doing the only thing you can do with
parents like yours...get far away, or at least set strong bounderies.
Your parents sound a lot like mine. I could relate to everything that you said.
I too was a 'dream child', never smoked, drank, slept around (Was a virgin
when I married a good JW boy at 19) all of that. Yet they berated me,
set me up to fail, and outright sabotaged any attempts I made to get away.
They continue to do this with my brother, who at 22 still lives at home,
can't even drive a car, and would be completely unable to function in society
on his own, because of their sabotage.
They would have continued to do the
same to me. Finally I said 'enough, I can't do this anymore, I'm not living
a lie and I'm getting the hell out'. They said they wouldn't help me
end my marriage, that I was making a mistake. I did it anyway.
Now, they say "We can't picture you, or life, without Justin." If I'd listened
to them, Justin wouldn't be in my life at all now, let alone my husband!
So I salute you, and I'm proud that you know that alchohol and promiscuity
don't need to be part of your life for you to be living in freedom.
You will have love, you will have joy, you will have all the things you deserve
because you are agressively going after happiness. That is something
we all have to learn to do if we're ever going to get it.
I've done it, and I have it. So I can tell you...keep eyes forward, cause
girl, it is SO worth it...
You've made us proud! Please keep us posted as you start your journey.
In the words of famous twin olympic runners Alvin and Calvin Harrison:
"Go to your destiny!"
The Four Agreements:
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best