It seems there is something called traumatic bonding that keeps many women bound to an abuser or to the same kind of man. Complicating this is that some women think that some of this behavior actually means he cares. - cares enough to yell and hit.
It isn't so much love as it is a primal instinct to submit to dominance. The alpha male beating his mate insto submission.
Lady, I feel for you, but you came out on top, and so I also admire you. It takes a very strong woman to be able to learn to love herself when she has been denied that right by the very one she chose to spend the rest of her life with.