I would appreciate some input from the boards most revered jw scholars. I am not certain why I feel compelled to have some questions answered by the Kremlin (read wts.) Maybe that I need final closure in order that I may move on, or I am seeking a little revenge.
First off, a little background on my situation. I will post it in short form or it will require many pages.
- 1972, married a faded away jw girl.
- 1996. She left the marriage, just before our 25 th anniversary.
- No biblical reason for leaving for all Christians except jws. (spiritual endangerment) Where do they come up with these beauties?
- She left by claiming that we would try and resolve our differences in Florida. She always left with our young son before the rest of us. This particular year was to be no different. What a terrible shock to me and our other children, when we arrived (after a usual 24 hour marathon drive) to find an empty home. To be fair to her, she did leave all of us minute notes stating that she was ending the marriage.
- Upon my return, I desperately tried to reconcile. Would not hear of it. She must get away from her enemies. When asked who the enemies were, she stated that it was the boys and I.
- Totally frustrated, I compiled a three page letter and sent it to Canadian Bethel. The LOVING friends there denied that they received it. Sent it again by registered mail. Letter basically asking how they could stand by and allow a divorce, when adultery was not involved. Finally got response (after 3 months) stating that this was a personal matter, therefore the wts does not get involved. Believe this and I have thousands of acres of swamp land to sell you.
- Since her engagement to this loving brother, I have composed a letter to the po of her congregation. I also ccd the wts in Canada. After waiting two weeks for a response, I called the po at home to make sure that he did receive my letter. He profusely thanked me for the letter. I had asked him to arrange for someone to call me so we can discuss some of my concerns. He said that they are investigating and if they need my input, they would be in touch. (Read, fuck you, you useless piece of shit, dont hold your breath.)
- This particular brother has been divorced for about 20 years now. He would always visit my wife alone during the day, while we were married. I dont think that anything improper was going on, but he must have felt guilty. When I dropped in, during lunch, he stated that it is improper for him to be there. Until this point, I did not object too much to my wife, but because of his comment, I asked her not to allow him to visit any longer unless I was present. She claimed to have done this.
So here is my question to the powers to be: How can you justify allowing the marriage, when clearly, she is not free to remarry according to your rules. They have also been seeing each other for awhile now, unchaperoned (again their stupid rules) without a problem.
How far do you all think that I should take this? I have been speaking to a board member about this and he seems to be sure that they take this sort of thing seriously. He was almost certain that they would come around to see me. I have heard from a reliable source that she was taken behind closed doors and interrogated. She has already chosen the wedding party; therefore they must have believed her bullshit.
Do I drop it and save myself a lot of aggravation or do I cause them some grief?
Any suggestions would be much appreciated.
68storm