Hey, New To The Board

by ColdRedRain 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • ColdRedRain

    I'm a former JW that faded out this year. I'm 21 years old and I live in a certian Midwestern state.

    The reason why I left was because of many things. 1, I was having doubts about the bible itself. When I had doubts, instead of feeling "brotherly love" by my family, family members declined to associate with me. 2: I was being judged too much for how I dressed (Which wasn't "Theocratic".) because I liked to dress up in black and I wore gothic rings. Those idiots proceeded to say how I dressed up like a gangbanger (What morons, haven't they heard of goths before?) They used to give me speaches about how I should dress like the people in the magazines. (I always used to retort to them how there isn't a Wal-Mart close to my house so it's damn near impossible.)3: I got upset about how the witlesses outside my family treated the molestation of a local girl. Instead of saying "How can this happen in here?" Instead, what I heard mostly was "Look at her, she's not spiritual with all the crosses and peace symbols she's wearing on her jacket." during the press conference.

    The third reason was the one that sent me away for good. If JW's can tune their people so well that they would turn on a girl that was molested, then they were truly a cult and I would never be around them.

    Since then, it's been lonley. I still live with my parents. I haven't been equipped to live on my own because of my witnessized life. I was homeschooled and made ill-equipped to handle real school which I had to go to since homeschooling didn't work for me, which in the end, messed up my grades. I was encouraged to take a 2 year course, but what real school would accept a guy with grades as messed up as mine?

    So I was wandering from part time job to part time job that fell through.

    I won't be posting here regularly because my parents found out about me visiting these sites and they're taking away the computer. I'll be able to post once in a while. Anyways, have a nice day!

  • johnathanseagull

    Cold redrain.............big welcome to the board

    J Gull

  • Joyzabel

    Welcome to the board, CoolRedRain.

    I'm sorry to hear about the plight you are in with your parents. But you did say you were 21 and they are treating you like a teenager instead of an adult?? (sounds like most jw parents doh!)

    Also, go to a community college, take their entrance exam to see what you need to take classes there. They don't care about what your grades were. They will help you get prepared for college classes, if need be.

    Check out your local library to see if they have Ray Franz's book, "Crisis of Concience". If not, ask the library to get a copy. You need to see that you are not alone and what the WTBTS is really based upon.

    Let us know how you are doing, once in a while (libraries have computers now, go visit one)



  • ugg

    hi,,,,it is nice to meet you....hang in there!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Dismembered

    Welcome to the board, CoolRedRain. Come back often!


  • plmkrzy


    Edited by - plmkrzy on 8 October 2002 7:42:23

  • DanTheMan

    Welcome to the board, I'm from midwest (Ohio) also.

    You can do a couple of things to cover your tracks. I'm not an expert on this, as I don't need to be, but one thing you can do is, instead of typing a web address in the address bar, click FILE, OPEN, then type the address. Also, after you're done you can click on the HISTORY icon, right click and delete any websites that you don't want them to see that you visited. Maybe you know all this, though. Take care, visit often, and, oh yes, JWs are a cult!!

  • Realist

    Hello ColdRedRain,

    goth is cool! i never had the nerve to wear it but its really stylish!

    great that you got out of the borg!!!

    best wishes,


  • mamashel

    Welcome ColdRedRain. I hope you find the answers you are looking for here. There are many many helpful resources here, and lots of new friends to make. I hope you enjoy us.


  • gumby

    They used to give me speaches about how I should dress like the people in the magazines. (I always used to retort to them how there isn't a Wal-Mart close to my house so it's damn near impossible

    That was a hilarious line.....and so true Gangbanger.........whoops! sorry....I mean Cold Red Rain ( just kiddin)

    We are glad to have you and you are so right about what you said. The Witnesses are not alone in forming opinions on a person by what they wear. But,the attitude they take, and the measures they take, are far beyond how others react.

    It's true they use pictures from the magazines when it comes to a showdown on how we are to look.They look as clean cut as the damn Mormon boys.....except without the 10 speed bike.


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