This is the response from my daughter to the letter that I sent to her which you can view in "Letters to my daughter -- Part 1". I choose not to use her conversation, but I will paraphrase it. Subject: Your point of view She did thank me for sharing that with her.
She also expressed a wish for me to keep the agreement we made to each other.
Also seemed to her that I was insistent on pushing her away.
Mary _________________________________________________________________________________ This is my reply to her:
Subject: Re: Your point of view You now know how I feel. I don`t see how that is pushing you away. Do you mean away from me? Perhaps someday I will be able to speak candidly with you.Too bad for me. I WILL do my best to keep our agreement. I will continue to remain positive in my life and try my best to have peace in my heart. Love you always, you are my sweet darling daughter. Mom Please no emotional blackmail, it will no longer work. _______________________________________________________________________________ This will be harder to paraphrase, I hope to convey her stance with the WTBTS. There was a thank you for my note. She assumed full responsibility for our communication going downhill. Her expression is one of loving me very much. She has made the affirmative to do her utmost to give no emotional blackmail as I would be trying as best as possible to keep our agreement.
She is happy to hear that I am doing my all to have peace in my heart. She did affirm that I was trying to push her away from me. And does not desire any more candid talk. She said that I had explained myself very clearly and does know where I stand on the matter. She made the statement that we have many more things in common to share.
When she was "blackmailing" she could only say that it was unitentional and did not desire for it "to work." She has stated that she wants what makes me happy, whatever I CHOOSE for my life. Her expression, she knows that I want the same for her.
Love,
Mary _______________________________________________________________________________ I suppose that I should have called this "Letters from my daughter". My main reason for sharing these letters is for people that are shunning, and for people who are reading, to see and feel the pain that is inflicted with this practice. My daughter and I are begining to bridge the huge gap that was caused by this religion. It has taken over ten very long (for me) years for us to get to this place. I am not sure why she is willing to have a mom/daughter relationship with me. She may one day let me know what has changed her mind. For now I am not going to question it, and she knows that I was always here. To anyone that is being shunned and locked out of your loved ones life, don`t give up. Throw yourself in there and give them a call. Send a present. What ever the hell you want to do to let them know that you love them. Don`t be surprised or upset if you get a coldness, or no response. Never forget that they love you too. The problem is that they are being influenced by a destructive cult. One that does not have feelings about tearing people away from the ones that they love and need the most, and will continue to love and need throughout their lives. witchywoman