troubled mind - I LOVE THIS! "I would tell her exactly how her last message affected you."
Separation of Powers - It's interesting you mentioned Disneyland. A few years ago we took the girls on a surprise trip. We went camping in our small motor home. It had some mechanical issues on the way, and we told the girls we were going to ask our bosses for another day since we lost one working on the rig (I'm self-employed, but I think they forgot what that means.) Early the next morning I drove to Disneyland. We woke the girls up and sat them down. "Remember we were going to ask if we could get some more time?" They reluctantly said yes, thinking we didn't get it. "Well, we sort of misled you." I handed them each a booklet of entrance tickets. "Today we are going to Disneyland. Tomorrow California Adventure. The next day we will go back to whichever one we want. Then we're going to Universal Studios. The next day we're driving to San Diego and going to Sea World. The day after that we're going to the San Diego Zoo." We opened the curtains. "We're sitting in the parking lot of Disneyland right now. Get dressed!" Man, that was such an awesome day!
We've always done fun things when she's out, and we've also just lived like a family, which I do miss: sitting at home watching a movie or playing a game, eating dinner together. Just living together.
Nugget - I like this line of reasoning a lot: "I would write to her mother and your daughter and state that whilst understanding the thinking behind the letter this is not a decision she can make at this time. The court has dictated visits and you do not wish to give up your rights. If she is still of the same mind at 18 then you will respect her choices even if they are emotionally difficult."
Sobeit - Thank you. Thats all I can do at this point: make sure she knows my love is everlasting and will always be there. Short of making my pleas, when she's 18, I have to wait on her. I've received a lot of encouragment here that waiting on here has a better chance of a good ending than a sad one.
Flipper - Thank you for your support. Hope and natural love. Right!
So I was reading another thread about the Zone Visit, and how there was nothing in there like last year about cutting off contact with DF/DA relatives, not even emailing. I haven't found details about this event. Can someone post a link to a thread about it or fill me in? I'm wondering if this is where she got the idea. They had gone to the convention right before her visit.